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We hear it all the time.

“It’ll be okay!" “Don’t worry, it’s okay!” “Are you okay?”

And sometimes - it won’t, it’s not, and you’re not. That’s okay.

Here’s why.

To Be Okay...

Being okay means one of two things:

  1. That you actually are okay, which can take time, space, effort, support, process, therapy, and/or change. OR
  2. You say you are okay, when really you aren’t. Which means that you are denying/ignoring/pushing away your true feelings about whatever is going on in your life.
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What It Looks Like Pretending to Be Okay

If you choose number two, which many of us have for many years, it will mean you are not being true to yourself. It will mean that those hard to feel feelings. The ones you have been pretending don’t exist? They will never get the chance to leave. Thus not allowing for you to be free of them. They will linger. You will suffer. They will even suffocate you maybe. 

Feelings that want your attention but aren’t given it don’t leave you alone. You may be able to distract yourself from them for a while. However, they will be like your dog when he’s hungry or wants a walk. They will stalk you, following your every move until you pay attention. But what happens once you take care of your dog’s needs? He goes and lays down lovingly next to you on the couch, giving you all the deserving snuggles!

How to Get to Actually Being Okay

As far as feeling okay, I choose number one. But in order to get there, you may have to get comfortable NOT being okay first. Being able to admit it to someone like a therapist, loved one, or yourself. When they ask ‘Are you okay?’, say that no, you are in fact, not okay. You are tired or sad or angry or alone or even unsure. At times you may not even know why. You may not know what to do about it. First, take the step of accepting where you are. Accepting that you are not going to hide or pretend, you are going to find the strength and courage to just sit in the ‘not OK’ place until you can move forward.

Care for Yourself by Actually Being Okay

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We think that faking ok is good for us. Good for the poor people around us who don’t want to hear about it. They just want a quick “how are you?” - “I’m good!” exchange and then be done with it. No one really cares if I am ok or not, right? Do I even care if I am?

The answer is you do care. And so do the people in your life. And most people can spot a fake. Most people know that you are not ok. Those people would rather hear an honest answer so they can find ways to support you. Rather than a lie, where they can do nothing. 

Maybe try the truth? Even the truth with a little side of what’s going on. Or a dollop of how they could help? That sounds pretty good, even pretty ok to me!

Depression Treatment in Tigard, OR Can Help You Actually Be Okay

Tired of saying you are okay when you really aren't? Ready to have a caring therapist help you get to a point of actually being okay? We are ready to support you through it! Discover Counseling offers depression treatment through online therapy in Oregon. We make starting therapy in Tigard, OR easier with three steps. The first step is to contact us. From there you can make an appointment with a supportive therapist. Working together with a depression therapist you can acknowledge the hard to feel feelings. From there you can begin the steps to become actually ok.

Additional Therapy Offered at Discover Counseling in Tigard, OR

We offer many therapy services to meet your needs while working on being ok. Along with depression treatment, we also offer anxiety treatment. Additionally, our therapists offer therapy for relationship issues, premarital therapy, and codependency counseling. If you are facing changes in life begin life transition counseling. Are you a parent? We offer support for postpartum parents and parenting couples. Everyone, including kids and teenagers, can be struggling to feel okay. Call us today to start therapy in Tigard, OR.