Is Self-Care Selfish?

Is Self-Care Selfish?

One of the most controversial issues I think people struggle with is that of self-care. Most people I talk with would describe it as being selfish or self-centered – only thinking about you and not thinking about anyone else. But is this what self-care really is? If it is something different, then how do you distinguish self-care from selfishness? I would like to answer those questions here.   What is Self-Care If you look at the word “self-care”, you see two connected but separate words. “Care” means taking...

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Overcoming Pain and Suffering, Part 2 of 2

Overcoming Pain and Suffering, Part 2 of 2

In Part 1 of this series, I introduced the fact that pain and suffering are an inevitable and unavoidable part of life. I also discussed four unhealthy – yet very common – ways that people often respond and cope, as well as some typical results of those responses. In this article, I will address a healthier approach to dealing with suffering. Please note, however, that this is an extremely sensitive issue and I will do my best to walk the fine line of compassion and respect for your hurting, while still guiding you gently into a...

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Overcoming Pain and Suffering, Part 1 of 2

Overcoming Pain and Suffering, Part 1 of 2

Pain is an inevitable part of life. Throughout life, whether in childhood or in late adulthood, we may experience difficulties such as traumas, deaths, divorces, fractured or broken relationships, natural disasters, and many other painful events. The emotions we experience from these can be intense and overwhelming, and we may not know what to do with them. Often times in order to survive, we do the best we can with what we have. The problem, however, is that facing pain and suffering can impair our ability to function in life. To actually...

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National Marriage Week 2012

From Prepare-Enrich… For many people, a new year brings resolutions to improve different aspects of their lives. Striving to maintain better physical or financial health is a worthy goal, but what about¬†improving the health of relationships? National Marriage Week originated in the U.K. in 1996 and has since spread to several countries, including the United States. National Marriage Week USA runs every year from February 7-14. It is a creative campaign that coincides with the Valentine’s Day holiday in an attempt to deepen and...

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Why Premarital Counseling?

Why Premarital Counseling?

One of the most common questions I get from engaged couples is, “What are the benefits of premarital counseling?” Since it’s often asked, I thought I would share a few of my thoughts here in hopes that it will help you gain a better understanding as you look into premarital counseling. Build on strengths. Premarital counseling is a great opportunity for couples to identify the strengths of their relationship and build on them. Having a healthy relationship is a good thing, but it’s even better when each person knows...

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Keeping New Year’s Resolutions

Keeping New Year’s Resolutions

So we’re just over two weeks into the new year and many people are probably struggling with their resolutions. It’s very common, and we all do it. We make big plans and then a few days later ask ourselves, “What was I thinking?!” in sheer disappointment. Well, maybe it’s not quite as dramatic as that but you get the idea. To help with these resolutions, I want to share a simple acronym that will hopefully enable you to revise (if necessary) and refine your goals for 2012 so that you maximize your ability to...

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